What makes a man attractive?

Being smart, honest, hard-working and kind.

That’s what works for me.  (I’ve been half in love with George Bailey for a long time).

Naturally good looks can help, but I find that people who have the above qualities tend to become more beautiful in my eyes.  Conversely, once I learn that someone is a jerk, he’s not attractive, no matter how physically beautiful he might be.

A sense of humor also helps.  A man who can laugh at himself and the absurdity of the world is a joy.  However, kindness is still a requirement.  There are many clever people who have an unkind sense of humor.  It might be amusing for a moment, but it’s not something I’d like to live with.

And what about money?  Someone recently asked me if all the heroes in my books are rich.  Answer:  No.  However, some of them are, and if the wealth is a result of their hard work, it is attractive IMHO.  Wealth can have Prince Charming overtones, but it also shows that the hero is competent at what he does.

Another quality I find attractive is resourcefulness.  A man who can take care of cars and fix a leaky shower is attractive to me, because I have absolutely no interest in learning how to do that myself.  A competent DIY type has definite romantic possibilities.

I came up with this list while working on my newest book, The Baby Tree.

This list reminded me why I like my husband.

This list also reminded me of my favorite actor.  From interviews, it appears that Richard Armitage has many of these qualities as well.  For general information, I recommend:

screencap from richardarmitagenet.com

http://www.richardarmitagenet.com and

http://www.richardarmitageonline.com

There are also many blog posts about him this week for Fanstravaganza 4. (Warning:  not all of it is sweet.)

What qualities do you think makes a man attractive?

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